Hiddenden/Cozy-Den
0
0
Fork 0
Code Issues Pull Requests Actions Packages Projects Releases Wiki Activity

update

Browse Source
This commit is contained in:
Latte
2026-03-18 19:36:35 +01:00
parent b89c80a18b
commit ac55479d2f
1 changed files with 22 additions and 23 deletions
Download Patch File Download Diff File Expand all files Collapse all files
src/content/blog/the-futures-that-quietly-disappeared.md
+22 -23
View File
@@ -5,16 +5,15 @@ pubDate: 2026-03-19
tags: ["love", "grief", "reflection", "personal", "relationships"] tags: ["love", "grief", "reflection", "personal", "relationships"]
category: "personal" category: "personal"
featuredEssay: false featuredEssay: false
draft: true
--- ---
*by LATTE* *by LATTE*
People often think grief is only about what happened. People often think grief is only about what happened.
The breakup. The breakup.
The silence. The silence.
The last conversation. The last conversation.
The moment something ended. The moment something ended.
But some grief lives somewhere else. But some grief lives somewhere else.
@@ -42,8 +41,8 @@ Just the quiet kind.
The kind that slips naturally into conversation when two people still imagine themselves continuing. The kind that slips naturally into conversation when two people still imagine themselves continuing.
We should do that again sometime. We should do that again sometime.
We should go back there. We should go back there.
We should play that again. We should play that again.
At the time, those things felt safe. At the time, those things felt safe.
@@ -64,16 +63,16 @@ That sentence sounds small if you say it too quickly.
To someone else, it may even sound trivial. To someone else, it may even sound trivial.
Just a game. Just a game.
Just mining. Just mining.
Just another thing people do online. Just another thing people do online.
But that was never really the point. But that was never really the point.
The point was the quietness of it. The point was the quietness of it.
Two people drifting through space together. Two people drifting through space together.
Lasers on asteroids. Lasers on asteroids.
A rhythm slow enough that conversation could come and go without pressure. A rhythm slow enough that conversation could come and go without pressure.
That kind of time is easy to underestimate. That kind of time is easy to underestimate.
@@ -83,7 +82,7 @@ No one is trying to impress anyone.
You are simply there. You are simply there.
And sometimes that is one of the deepest forms of intimacy: And sometimes that is one of the deepest forms of intimacy:
sharing a world without needing to fill it. sharing a world without needing to fill it.
We were going to do that again. We were going to do that again.
@@ -100,7 +99,7 @@ That one stayed in my mind for a different reason.
Maybe because it held a different shape of future. Maybe because it held a different shape of future.
Less repetition. Less repetition.
More horizon. More horizon.
The thought of moving through that universe together carried something soft in it. The thought of moving through that universe together carried something soft in it.
@@ -122,14 +121,14 @@ But that it almost belonged to us.
I think one of the crueler parts of grief is how often it hides inside ordinary things. I think one of the crueler parts of grief is how often it hides inside ordinary things.
The world teaches us to expect heartbreak from the big moments. The world teaches us to expect heartbreak from the big moments.
The confessions. The confessions.
The endings. The endings.
The dramatic collapses. The dramatic collapses.
But some of the heaviest losses are much smaller. But some of the heaviest losses are much smaller.
A game you were supposed to return to. A game you were supposed to return to.
A routine that had not happened yet, but already had a place in your mind. A routine that had not happened yet, but already had a place in your mind.
A future evening that once felt inevitable. A future evening that once felt inevitable.
Those are harder to explain. Those are harder to explain.
@@ -148,8 +147,8 @@ It is the future tense that existed around him.
The small, casual *we* that lived inside ordinary sentences. The small, casual *we* that lived inside ordinary sentences.
We should. We should.
We could. We could.
We will. We will.
There is something particularly painful about losing that grammar. There is something particularly painful about losing that grammar.
@@ -173,7 +172,7 @@ The mind arriving at futures the heart has not yet stopped expecting.
I think that is the part people overlook. I think that is the part people overlook.
They assume only lived moments count. They assume only lived moments count.
Only memories. Only memories.
Only things that actually took place. Only things that actually took place.
But what never happened can matter too. But what never happened can matter too.
@@ -203,8 +202,8 @@ With the strange tenderness that remains when something mattered and can no long
I do not think every promise is broken on purpose. I do not think every promise is broken on purpose.
Sometimes people change. Sometimes people change.
Sometimes life moves. Sometimes life moves.
Sometimes the future quietly closes without either person fully understanding when it happened. Sometimes the future quietly closes without either person fully understanding when it happened.
But that does not make those imagined moments meaningless. But that does not make those imagined moments meaningless.
@@ -221,8 +220,8 @@ I am learning that grief is not only about the life you had.
It is also about the life that kept glowing faintly ahead of you, until one day it did not. It is also about the life that kept glowing faintly ahead of you, until one day it did not.
The little plans. The little plans.
The ordinary tomorrows. The ordinary tomorrows.
The worlds you thought you would return to together. The worlds you thought you would return to together.
Some futures do not end loudly. Some futures do not end loudly.